Sometimes you’re just not feeling it. I get that. Maybe this year you’re not able to spend the holiday’s with loved ones and you’re feel lonely. Maybe it’s just been an extremely stressful year and you’re over it. Either way, believe me when I say you don’t want to miss the opportunity to at least try and make the holidays a little brighter for yourself even if it’s totally different from most years.
Here are a few ideas that I know may seem corny and ridiculous, but if you lean-in and at least try to lay everything that’s stressing you to the side for a bit, you’ll feel better.
Here’s a quick list of Friend Date Ideas that are simple, but fun. It’s important to change it up sometimes and see your friend in a different light. By doing this, you’re bound to find out something new about who they are. Making memories together by doing something out of the ordinary is special.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love going out to a delicious dinner and sip cocktails, but sometimes I’m looking to do something different with my friends.
Why don’t I know more about Native American History?
There is so much history I NEVER LEARNED.
I’m no historian, but there’s Google, documentaries, books, and other resources I can tap into.
One thing for sure, I will acknowledge and honor Native Americans history, which includes mourning the unnecessary deaths of people who were forced off their land.
This year has been WILD, and if there’s one thing I’ve most definitely learned, is that I NEED to be even more intentional. So, this is the perfect year to officially start changing my mindset and focusing on what “Thanksgiving” means to me.
Much of the country will likely continue to celebrate Thanksgivings false past and never acknowledge the truth behind the Holiday. I hope I’m wrong, but in the meantime, what I can control is what I do in my own home.
I’m starting with renaming “Thanksgiving” to “Family Day.” We’ve changed 4th of July to Family Day as well. It may sound unnecessary to you, but it really does help you refocus on what’s important. The one thing I do love about these holiday’s is spending time with my family and friends.
To be honest, I’m starting with the basics. I’m just starting to dig into understanding when and why did we ever start celebrating Thanksgiving? What’s the truth behind the whole feast and how were Indigenous People involved? So far, my research is shining a light on all the false information that was shoved down our throats in school. This is why it’s important to do your own research. As 33-year-old Black women, I know this to be true in everything. We (Black People) have been lied on, lied to, and been made to be “the bad ones” all the time, so RESEARCH IS EVERYTHING. Black people have a rich history that also hasn’t been taught in schools, so I know Indigenous people’ history is rich as well, and I’m determined to soak in as much information as possible.
Moving forward, on November’s Family Day, my focus will be on my loved ones and nature. Acknowledging that no matter where I am in North America, I am on Indigenous land, PERIOD. Prayer, reflection, native foods, educating myself on Native American History, and giving back to the community (volunteer or donate to a cause that will directly affect Indigenous People) is a must.
The day will be spent giving thanks. By that, I mean really focusing on gratitude, not just for the one minute during prayer before stuffing ourselves with way too much food.
The focus must shift.
How are you planning to change your mind set about Thanksgiving this year?
I can’t believe it’s December! I swear it was just the 4th of July yesterday!
Time is flying by, and the holiday’s will come and go in a flash. To make sure I’m being intentional with my time, I wrote down a few activities and traditions that I don’t want Aaron and I to miss out on this year.
Self-care can come in a lot of different forms, and my favorite kind of activity is spending time with my girlfriends. I mean real quality time catching up, motivating, and uplifting each other to continue pushing towards our goals.
I’m the girl that likes receiving gift cards for my birthday and Christmas because then I can go get something I really like or need. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate any gift given, but only a few people really understand my style, so I’d rather make it easy for the people around me and request gift cards.
Every year my parents ask me what I want for Christmas, and I always say “CASH please or make a payment towards my student loans/debt” – haha, but seriously, that’s the best gift to me. Getting rid of my debt would be the ultimate gift! Read More