Open Letter to My Sister!

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   This is a letter, well more like quick blurbs, for my sister who has just completed her first week of high school! I know what you’re thinking: BIG age difference…yep! My mom is bad-ass and had Madison just a few weeks before her 41st birthday! So here it goes Sis…


I love you so much girlie! I look at you and see greatness. This is going to sound so cliché but seriously, you can do whatever you put your mind to…& when you do, I know you WILL kick ass at it! Baby girl, you can become a real #bossbabe. I see it! 

Please, understand that you have a support team like no other around you! I will be your number one cheerleader, ALWAYS. I want only the best for you! My biggest hope: Believe in yourself and let your light shine through no matter what! The world is ready for you and all your talents!

 I know that some of the advice I give you below will be like, “duh!”, but as your big sister, I have to say it. As always, I’m going to be blunt with you because you deserve real ness not fluff. I want you know exactly where I stand, I have your back, I’m an open book, and you can talk to me about anything!

So here is goes…. Welcome to High School!

My first advice:
1.) Don’t have sex in high school. You won’t remember it when you’re 30. It’s not worth it. Save yourself.

2.) Ask me anything … I’m here for you. I’ll NEVER judge you.

3.) Don’t do drugs… you don’t know your body well enough yet! I never did drugs in high school, and I was still considered “cool”…whatever that means lol… I didn’t drink either & no one ever pressured me. They may have asked but I’d always say no. No biggies, they’d just walk away. REMEMBER most High Schoolers are selfish, so the less they have to share, the better. It was very easy to say no and move on. Never feel pressured, but if you do, text me and I’ll come get you. Plus, give you a bad ass excuse to give to everyone on why you have to leave. No one will question you.

4.) If it’s not me you call when you are in a jam… then give our parents a little credit and call them. They love you and would do anything for you.

 5.) Save your money. Spend our parent’s. SERIOUSLY…. SAVE YOUR MONEY as much as possible during these next four years and even into college.

6.) Don’t limit yourself to hanging out with just one group of friends in high school. Have as many friends and associates (learn the difference) from as many cliques as possible. Be cool with everyone… even the people you think you have nothing in common with… Be kind.

7.) Don’t give attention to people who are negative. You don’t need that drama in your life!

8.) Remember: HATER’S GONNA HATE

9.) Try as many new things as possible.

10.) Life is damn good! It won’t always feel like it, but I assured you it will always get better. On the days that seem like life sucks, remember that. Give thanks to the Lord for waking you up every day and appreciate your blessing.

11.) If you tend to be shy, try your best to overcome your shyness. Take it one step at a time, but work on it. It’s a gift to get to know new people, especially those who are different from you. Get out of your comfort zone. Doing this may feel weird at first, & you probably won’t want to do it, but believe me the benefits are everlasting.

12.) Work your ass off in school. Make the best grades possible… but still have FUN!

13.) REMEMBER: God made no mistakes when he made you!

14.) Mom is almost always going to be right…#FACTS

15.) Don’t worry about getting a boyfriend. They’re worthless and quite frankly a waste of time in high school! Have fun with your girlfriends. Guys should just be an accessory/used for pure entertainment. Entertainment that you and your friends allow around sometimes for giggles.

16.) Be yourself. Do what feels right to you. You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing

17.) Baby girl, keep reading. Don’t stop being a bookworm… I love that about you.

18.) Learn how to do your own hair and makeup in under 20 minutes. This is a skill every women should master!

19.) Take lots of photos and record as many videos as possible. Save and print them, because soon these moments will just become memories.

 20.) Love yourself. Respect yourself. Educate yourself.

Madison, you rock. Now, it’s time to really show the world who you are and what you are capable of. Some people will be able to hang and others will wont, and you know what; that is ok! I want you to stay humble, be kind, get involved, make new friends, try new things, slay in fashion, be a #bossbabe, and be too busy to worry about anything but enjoying life!

Love you little sister!

You’re big sis,




The Author

Awesome! Alysha January is the Marketing Manager from the Historic Charles Street Association and co-owner of Busheler's of Baltimore. She is an activist who is very passionate about creating equality, inclusion, and diversity throughout the community. She created a blog and instagram account called Discover Charm City to highlight Baltimore’s small businesses, local food scene, and her personal life-style. Alysha wants to show others how to live, work, and play in Baltimore and beyond. Alysha also host women empowerment events she calls, Gap Pal Events. She invites women to come connect with other women from the community in a safe open environment.

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