You Need Gal Pals… Believe Me!


I love all the women in my life for so many reasons.

I use to be the girl that would say dumb shit like ” I get along much better with guys!”  Meaning I don’t like hanging with girls. I cringe when I think about that statement now.

Looking back, I now understand that I just hadn’t experience positive women relationships on a regular bases. I thought women were “nice” but at some point would talk shit about me or end up displaying  passive aggressive behaviors.

Listen, I was no angel. I’ve made horrible mistakes as a friend too, so I’m very thankful for positive growth. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had close “girlfriends” over the years, some relationships that lasted and others that fell apart (over the dumbest things) but when I  reflect back, I see that neither party was mature enough to understand how important our bond really was and that we needed to stick together. I mean really stick together, be kind to one another, be HONEST with each other, LOVE each other, and support one another. Be each others BIGGEST CHEERLEADERS.

“I get along better with guys!” Oh hell no! I’ve completely changed my outlook on that. I actually feel a little sad for them because a lot of men don’t ever get to experience the type of deep connection we make with our friends. The world is just learning the power that we (women) hold. I think we’re all still learning our own POWER. Learning to embracing our light and standing tall in it on top of understanding that we can share and stand together in that light with our girls. We are learning that we can all win!

I am so glad that I finally realized years ago that having legit girlfriends was the ONLY way to live my life. Pouring into my friends as much as they pour into me is one of the reason I am here. Happy and alive. They are all so important.

I had to work on myself first before I could open my heart to allow friendships to thrive. If you ain’t ready, then chill out before trying to pursue friendships. I also had to learn how to to trust my instinct. I listen to my body and what vibes I’m receive from others. Everyone’s not going to vibe with you, or be ready for true friendship, and you have to be okay with that. Protecting you energy always comes first.

I truly believe every women needs to have a trusted group of friends to be able to thrive.

Katie Leaver said this; “The most beautiful thing about female friendship, to me, is its strength. Women make each other more resilient because, when female friendship is done right, it is this astounding source of confidence, reassurance, comfort, joy and candour that can truly guide you through life.
“Friendship among women is so important because it gives us the solidarity to get through the inconvenience, fear, confusion and even danger of being female.”


This is the entire reason why I started Gal Pal Events. It can be HELL trying to make friends as an adult and I wanted to provide a safe place for like-minded women to come together in one place to meet and hopefully build community. Building new friendships take work, but its sooooo worth it when it clicks and you find your people.

January will be here before you know it and I’m here to tell you that 2020 is your year to connect. Text, email, or slide into that Gal Pals DM you’ve been wanting to hang out with and set a date! Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. Believe me, I’ve crashed and burned many times, but I had to remind myself that ” those just weren’t my people.” Had I not continued to just put myself out there, send the invites, and tried to connect, I would be missing out on a lot of amazing friendships I now have.

You got this!


Until next time…




The Author

Awesome! Alysha January is the Marketing Manager from the Historic Charles Street Association and co-owner of Busheler's of Baltimore. She is an activist who is very passionate about creating equality, inclusion, and diversity throughout the community. She created a blog and instagram account called Discover Charm City to highlight Baltimore’s small businesses, local food scene, and her personal life-style. Alysha wants to show others how to live, work, and play in Baltimore and beyond. Alysha also host women empowerment events she calls, Gap Pal Events. She invites women to come connect with other women from the community in a safe open environment.